The world’s current situation makes us think of the worst. It releases fear inside us. We make our minds bleed with stress about what might happen in the future. For someone like me, who’s a mom and has anxiety, things like this virus consume me, it cripples me. The COVID-19 is dangerous, deadly even. We worry about how we can survive this, what we can do to help to protect our families and kids. I fear that I’m too young to go. My child’s still three. How will he grow up without me? I don’t have insurance money yet—all this stuff.
However, these feelings can be more hurtful than helpful. Instead of worrying too much, learn about the virus, the way it spreads, and how we can protect ourselves and our families. If we focus on fear, we waste the time we’re supposed to spend with our families. Why not focus on the positive and the things we have control over rather than those we don’t.
What are the things we can do to stay positive during this pandemic?
Validate your feelings and facts.
“There is a virus. It’s already spreading. It is spreading through close contact contamination. I am more scared of the virus than I have ever been my entire life. But I have a family to protect so we can still see each other at the end of this.”
Recognizing this fact and telling yourself that it’s okay will be your first step to being positive. As soon as you acknowledge that, you’ll be calmer. Face the present. Don’t wait for others to comfort and validate you. Once you recognize this, you might cry or sleep, but the fears will be gone soon.
Mindfulness is the state of mind where you are fully aware of the present and what is in front of you. It may or may not work, but you might want to give it a try. You will notice yourself becoming more mindful, and your stress level will lower down.
Here’s how you can try a breathing technique:
- Be aware of where your breathing happens (nostrils or mouth).
- Silently count “one” after the first inhale and exhale, then two, then three up to seven. Why seven? It’s because once you get lost, you return to one, and you won’t have to compete with yourself on how many breaths you’ve made.
- Repeat this to relax.
You can also find another breathing exercise here.
Think of someone aside from yourself.
Instead of wasting your time worrying about what might or might not happen in the future, spend this time to think about your family and the fun things you can do while you’re all stuck at home. You can play with your kids, bake cookies with them, have an indoor picnic, make recipes you can find online. In fact, My family and I made the trending dalgona coffee.
Rather than thinking of this quarantine as a curse, think of it as a blessing. You can teach your kids the things that the school doesn’t teach them like cooking, playing in the sand, and cleaning. This Enhanced Community Quarantine is an opportunity for your kids to bond with you, and you get to know them too.
Then once the kids are asleep, you can use this time to cuddle with your husband and maybe watch Money Heist on Netflix or play video games like we do (Tee and I love to play DOTA).
You can also use this time to make video calls with relatives and check on them. It might put you at ease knowing that they’re doing great themselves and that you have nothing to worry about. Who knows, you might pick up a tip or two.
Be physically fit
If you have the time and space, try to get more exercise. You can watch Youtube tutorials or have Zumba with family. I want to do this, but we don’t have space as we’re living in a small condo, so I’m not comfortable. But if you can, do so. Exercise releases endorphins, which trigger a positive feeling in our body.
Look forward to the things you’ve missed during this time
Two of the things I miss the most is the salon and department stores. The foot spa, the facial, the mani-pedi, having my hair done, strolling in the department store looking over shoes, and dresses are most of the things I missed. I’m already planning on what to do and where to go once this pandemic is over.
You can try listing out the things you will do alone in your me-time and imagine that you’re having the best time of your life, and you can only achieve that if we follow the government’s protocols on quarantine. By then, the world will be a better place to live.
Imagine all the pandemics and worldwide catastrophes we’ve gone through. We turned out to be okay, right? It’s scary right now, yes, but let’s trust God about this situation. This might take a little more cooperation and a little more time but we can survive this Let’s continue to be hopeful and prayerful.
How about you? How do you keep yourself sane during this pandemic? What helps you to stop worrying?