Today, I was lying on my bed and did nothing. My son was busy playing, and my partner was working. I don’t have tasks on my plate for work, and I want to take a little rest in writing. Though I’m supposed to finish my resource page today, I felt lazy, so I wasn’t able to finish it. (So, if you visit my resource page, it’s not done yet.) But while I was lying there, I just felt so weird. It’s like my mind telling me “hey, you have to do something, don’t just lie there.
Sometimes, we get so used to living in a fast-paced life that taking a break seems odd. I was accustomed to planning my entire day, blocking every task in every hour. My need to be productive gets the best me. I grew up with the mindset that if you’re not doing anything, you’re lazy; that resting means you’re wasting your time; that not planning equals failure.
Life as we know it has been an endless cycle of hustle and ambition. We crave productivity. While there is nothing wrong with being productive, what’s wrong is that sometimes, we do it just for the sake of being productive. We do it even when it doesn’t have a purpose; it doesn’t have a meaning anymore.
But there’s something I realized while I was staring at the blank ceiling.
I realized that it’s okay to pause –that it’s okay to do nothing; that it’s okay to give our mind, our hearts, and our body a break.
It’s more than okay. I’ll tell you why:
- It’s healthy. You’re allowing your mind, body, and soul a favor.
- It gives you time to think — about yourself, about your life, and about what’s going on. It’s been said that “when you do nothing and be alone, you have to face yourself, and that’s the most difficult thing to do.” It’s also the best thing to do. No matter how hard it is. It allows us to feel and be real.
- The need to ‘just’ do something becomes counterproductive that it cripples us instead of helping us grow. The constant drive to grow, earn, and be the best robs us of the happiness and joy that we so deserve.
Taking a pause means smelling the sweet blissful fragrance of a rose. It’s reminiscing the best moments of our lives with the aroma of a freshly brewed coffee. It means it’s time to renew vitality and live with a purpose. It’s embracing the earthy scent the rain produces. It means enjoying every breath that comes in and out of your nose.
We all get burned out. We all get tired. We all reach the point of not knowing what makes sense.
From the wise words of Mark Twain,
“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect. “
So the next time you feel burned out and angry and stressed, tell yourself that it’s okay to pause. And it is okay to pause:
- From work
- From making difficult life decisions
- From relationships
- From loved ones
- From school
- From taking care of the kids
- From chores
- From creative passions
- From physical routine
- From social media
- From your busy calendar
- From everything else, and just be.
And sometimes, it is where the magic happens. When we slow down, we can see life as it is.
If your fast-paced life won’t allow you to stop, take a deep breath. Observe how the air comes in your nose and feel it as it goes down your body. Do it again once you exhale. Don’t do anything, and just focus on your breathing. Do it seven times. And every time you feel like you need a pause, but you don’t know what to do – just breathe.
As moms, life has been so busy with the kids and everything else. But it’s okay to take a pause every now and then.
How about you? What things will you take a break from this week?